Before I started coaching or truly felt comfortable on my own health journey, the holidays and other busy seasons in my life always felt like an exhausting tug-of-war. I’d savor the joy of indulgence—festive treats, late nights, skipping workouts—only to be overwhelmed by guilt the next day.
Thoughts like “I shouldn’t have eaten that” or “I should’ve worked out more” were constant companions, and maybe you’ve felt this way, too.
The truth is, many of us spend the holiday season “should-ing” ourselves at every turn. We indulge, regret it, and vow to make up for it, stuck in a cycle of enjoyment and guilt.
But here’s what I’ve learned: there’s a better way.
The Power of Owning Your Decisions
What if, instead of seeing indulgence as breaking some unspoken rule, you could view it as a conscious choice—one you fully own and move on from without guilt?
I call this mindful indulgence.
It’s about deciding in the moment to enjoy a treat, take a rest day, or skip a routine because it’s what you need, and then letting that decision be okay. No guilt, no mental punishment—just a deliberate choice to live fully and joyfully.
Why Mindful Indulgence Works
Research shows that beating yourself up over indulgences can actually sabotage your progress in the long run. On the other hand, when you make a choice you feel good about and release the guilt, it’s easier to stay on track.
This practice isn’t about throwing away your goals—it’s about aligning your decisions with self-love and balance.
What Mindful Indulgence Could Look Like:
Here are some examples of how this approach might play out during the holidays:
• Taking an extra rest day because your body feels tired and needs it.
• Enjoying a favorite holiday dessert without planning to “burn it off” later.
• Skipping meal prep for the weekend so you can relax or enjoy a spontaneous dinner with loved ones.
Does this mean letting go of all structure? Not at all. It’s still important to:
• Stick to your meal plan as much as possible.
• Move your body regularly.
• Stay hydrated and well-rested.
But when you do choose to indulge, practice owning that decision fully and moving forward.
A Healthier Holiday Mindset
This mindset shift allows you to enjoy the season while maintaining a sense of control and balance. When you embrace mindful indulgence, you free yourself from the emotional toll of guilt and allow your energy to focus on what truly matters—connection, joy, and gratitude.
So as you navigate the holiday season, I invite you to ask yourself: What decisions can I make that honor both my goals and my joy?
And if you find yourself indulging, celebrate it as a choice rather than a mistake.
Was this helpful to hear? I’d love to know how you’re applying mindful indulgence in your life this holiday season. Feel free to share your insights or challenges—I’m here to support you.
Wishing you a season of balance, joy, and self-love,
Rev. Dr. Jessica Chichester
Co-Owner, Haute Healing Oasis
P.S. If you need extra support, our therapies at Haute Healing Oasis can help you reset, recharge, and stay aligned with your health goals throughout the holidays. Let’s make this season your most balanced and fulfilling yet!