At Haute Healing Oasis, we often hear from people who feel like they’ve failed in their fitness or therapy journey. They beat themselves up with thoughts like:
- “I didn’t have enough discipline.”
- “I wasn’t feeling motivated enough.”
- “I knew I didn’t have the willpower to stick with it.”
Here’s the truth: success with your health, fitness, or wellness goals has little to do with discipline, motivation, or willpower. In fact, let me go a step further—willpower, as we think of it, doesn’t even exist.
Let’s break this down and reframe these common misconceptions.
Discipline: The Trap of Limiting Beliefs
Many believe discipline is the magic ingredient for success—forcing yourself to do something you don’t really want to do. But the problem isn’t a lack of discipline; it’s the beliefs we carry.
Thoughts like, “Every time I start an exercise program, I quit,” or, “I always sign up for therapy but stop going after a few sessions,” set you up for failure from the start. If your mind is primed for defeat, no amount of discipline will change the outcome.
The solution? Replace those limiting beliefs with empowering ones:
- “I’m capable of committing to my health.”
- “Every small step I take matters.”
This shift opens the door to consistency and success.
Motivation: The Myth of Waiting to Feel Ready
How many times have you thought, “I just need to feel motivated”? The truth is, motivation doesn’t lead to action—action leads to motivation.
Start small. Commit to two strength workouts a week or drink half your body weight in ounces of water daily. These manageable actions create momentum, and that momentum fuels motivation.
Instead of waiting to feel inspired, take a step. The act of showing up will inspire you to keep going.
Willpower: What You Really Need Is Structure
Willpower isn’t what you’re missing. Success isn’t about forcing yourself to stick with a plan through sheer determination. It’s about creating a structure that works for you:
- A realistic plan that fits your lifestyle.
- Support from a caring coach who can help you navigate challenges.
- Accountability to keep you on track and encouraged.
When you have structure, guidance, and accountability, success becomes not only possible but sustainable.
Reframe Your Journey
If you’ve fallen off track, it’s not your fault. It’s time to let go of outdated beliefs about discipline, motivation, and willpower. Instead:
- Replace disciplinewith positive, empowering beliefs.
- Forget motivationand choose small, consistent actions.
- Trade willpowerfor structure, guidance, and accountability.
When you shift your approach, you’ll see your goals take off—not because you forced yourself, but because you created an environment for success.
Here at Haute Healing Oasis, we’re committed to walking this journey with you. Whether it’s a fitness goal, a therapy program, or your overall health and wellness, we’re here to provide the support, structure, and care you need to thrive.
Let’s redefine what success looks like—together.
Committed to your health and happiness,
Rev. Dr. Jessica Chichester
Owner- Haute Healing Oasis